Being busy means there is no time to stop. Like we’re living in this limbo of errands and poor time management. There’s a deeply negative undertow to it.
I am not busy. I never want to be busy.
As a dad with a toddler and a three week old newborn* in the mix, there’s a fair bit of life admin that screams (often literally) for my attention.
Our laundry baskets (yep, we have multiple) are always 80% full. I am convinced there’s, at least, one other family living in our house that I haven’t been told about yet.
But there are tasks that should be done and tasks that need to be done. If a task is not important, it’ll get pushed over to the curb enough times until everyone involved forgets it.** Because it wasn’t a priority.
And this incredibly scientific formula sort of explains it.
Should be done = not a priority
Needs to be done = a priority
Too busy to cook. Too busy to train. Too busy to meditate. Too busy to jazz. Too busy, not because there is no time, but because it’s not a priority.
should need to stop saying “I’m too busy”. It makes us overwhelmed. Like we’re not enough. Like we don’t have enough time. Like we can’t manage.
What if we would move away from too busy and adopt not a priority.
What if instead of “I didn’t eat well in the last two days. I was busy with work and didn’t have time to cook”, you’d go “I didn’t eat well in the last two days, I was focusing on work and cooking wasn’t a priority.”
By rephrasing the statement, we acknowledge the realities of the current situation. We own our decision to focus on work instead of cooking and eating well.
Now, I could list ways to make healthy eating a possibility even when focusing on work… Followed by another list on why cooking should be a long-term priority. But I resist. Instead…
List your priorities.
The order of your priorities changes over time. And as life changes, some old priorities will be taken up by new ones.
But if you’re like me, you have a set of foundational priorities in life forming the arch of your being.
*And that’s why you haven’t heard from me for a while.
**Things with accompanying literal screams usually do get done.