Your motivation dips when you don’t find your health and fitness goals meaningful.
This is why most people who start their fitness journey with the goals of “to lose weight” or “to look good” fail. Those goals are rarely meaningful enough.
Of the three motivation zappers (see yesterday’s post for #1 and tomorrow’s post for #3), this one’s the one I’ve been going on since I started this blog in 2015. As well as in my book.
But previously, I’ve only hammered home how important it is to find meaningful goals when you’re first starting. While completely ignoring the importance of revisiting this exercise whenever you feel your motivation dipping along the way.
With coaching clients, I like to do something called the why conversation when digging for motivation.
Me: Correct me if I’m wrong, but based on our conversation, it sounds like you’d like to feel stronger and have more energy.
Client: Yes, that’s exactly right. You’re a wonderful listener.
Me: Ok, great. Why is feeling stronger and having more energy important to you?
Client: Because this, that and so on and then I have this goal which so and so.
Me: Ok, great. And how is this, that and so on affecting your life now?
Client: Well, so and so and Aunt May and then also the temporarily helical infrastructure of being.
Me: I can definitely understand all that. And why is this important for you?
Client: Ok, so Aunt May, helical infrastructure and unbearable gravity of lightness.
I’ll stop here, but you get the idea. I keep digging and asking ‘why’ for as long as it takes to get to the bottom of the real reason why reclaiming her energy and strength is so important.
Sometimes it only takes a few rounds of questions. But most of the time, it’s a longer process. And much of it depends on how much she can trust me (something that’s 100% on me).
Here’s how to play this at home (the third option is very 2023).
1. If you like to talk: Your friend acts as the coach. They keep asking you to drill deeper to find the meaning.
2. If you like to write: Sit down with pen and paper. Ask yourself, ‘why is this important’ and write down the answer. Then repeat that sequence until you hit a truly meaningful reason.
3. If you like tech: Use the ChatGPT for motivational interviewing: here’s the prompt to get you started.
Revisit this exercise whenever your motivation dips. As you do this, you might find that what you previously found meaningful no longer serves you.