To continue yesterday’s post, here’s a short column from a lady who wants to lose weight but finds it hard to talk about it because it goes against the current body positivity trend.
The column itself is in Finnish, which makes about as much sense to most of you as reading the horoscope from yesterday’s spaghetti. So, I took the privilege of grinding that column through the ChatGPT translator. Here it is:
“I’ve been hiding a shameful desire, but now I’ll say it out loud: I want to lose weight”
“Can we learn to talk about weight loss neutrally, asks Laura Friman in her column.”
“Recently, I’ve been hiding a shameful desire.
I don’t want to cheat on my partner at the Christmas party or go wild on the weekend off and pop all the drugs that come my way. Instead, it’s something much worse.
I want to lose weight.
I UNDERSTAND that the problematic nature of my desire might seem strange, for example, in the break rooms of female-dominated workplaces of the older generations. I assume that it’s still loudly proclaimed throughout Finland in these places that one should not take this sinful meeting pastry, or if one does, they must go for a sweaty jog with Ripa in the evening.
My reference group is not like that. In my bubble, enthusiasm for dieting is about as acceptable as torturing kittens.
SO, I FEEL an immediate need to explain. I want to lose weight because I feel uncomfortable. My body is literally in my way. When I see that my shoelaces have come undone, I get frustrated – I have to reach past my stomach. Daily life and normal activities are physically exhausting. It’s depressing.
Both body positivity talk and research emphasize that an overweight person can be healthy and fit. This is completely true.
However, in my case, it is not. My blood pressure is not getting any lower with age, and I’m afraid to even go for cholesterol blood tests.
I want to get rid of the idea that intentional weight loss is categorically wrong. AS DIET CULTURE CRITICISM keeps reminding us, automatic happiness does not come with weight loss. However, I am a chronically anxious person, so I can only choose whether I’m anxious while being lighter or heavier.
I prefer lighter.
Even then, I’m anxious, but at least I don’t have heartburn, my internal organs don’t suffocate in central body fat, and my knees are not strained. So, a couple of worries less.
THESE THOUGHTS embarrass me. After all, I’ve declared on social media myself that I will never diet again.
I should have added in small print that I don’t mean in the way I’ve dieted at least dozens of times before. I no longer think of weight loss as a project of weeks or even months – or a project at all.
I don’t imagine that I wouldn’t eat truffle pasta or a chunk of cheese weekly. Instead, I eat two slices of bread instead of eight for supper and agree to eat yogurt with less than 10% fat content. That’s enough.
I want to get rid of the idea that conscious weight loss – or even talking about it – is unsolidaristic or categorically wrong.
I believe it’s ok and entirely possible to hate fat-phobia, be critical of diet culture and narrow beauty standards, and still want to weigh less.
Can we learn to talk about weight loss neutrally?”