It has to go hand in hand in with a beginner’s body. When you’re first starting out, it helps to acknowledge and accept that you’re a beginner. To accept it as your starting point. To have the patience to learn (or to relearn) the exercises and to get the technique dialled in.

To acknowledge that in the long term you’re better off starting with less intensity in your workouts and gradually adding to it. To manage your body, but also to manage your mind and stay disciplined enough to keep showing up. Because very few people enjoy having the figurative shit beat out of them in workouts.

Sure, it’s one thing to make training challenging. Even tough. But for those who are crawling out of each training session, I wonder how long they’re going to keep showing up. Because, and this is a fact, most of us like to keep doing things that we at least remotely enjoy. It’s only for so long that we are going to keep sucking a lollipop with the wrapper on. It just isn’t enjoyable. No matter how much positive thinking we try to twist in it.

Breaking, changing, and learning habits is no different. If we make it too difficult in the beginning and set the bar too high, we’re doomed to give up sooner rather than later. It’s hard to keep showing up if we’re consistently falling short of the high bar goals we set for ourselves.

The better option, for most of us, is to set the bar lower. High enough so we still have to make an effort and grow from the challenge. But low enough that with a bit of stretch we can get over it without falling on our face.

It’s ok to fail occasionally. I’ll even argue that if we want to grow, learn and succeed it’s necessary to fail. But no one likes to fail and fall down all the time. No matter how much into kinky they might be.

Making things easy doesn’t sound very sexy. Especially when all you want to do is to copy what your uber-fit triathlete friend Sandra does. But you’re not Sandra. Well, you might be Sandra. But you’re probably not your uber-fit triathlete friend Sandra. And that’s ok. Start where you’re at. Not where your uber-fit triathlete friend Sandra is.